No.11962
>>11957When we aren't spitballing about the ship/fandom that brought us there, there's general fandom discussion where recs and off-topic chats happen. Obviously our tastes don't 100% overlap but I consider their recs valuable simply because they are into my OTP, similar to how I value every post here because a fujo wrote it.
Don't let me glamorize the hidey hole life though–there are long periods of silence and it can be scary to go full autism with usernames attached, even if it's not connected to anything else.
>>11956>Citrus con discordI'm too anxious to post in larger communities like that because all it takes is one landmine to start cataloging "problematic" things you said for a future hit piece because you disagreed with them once.
No.12013
>>12010>I wouldn't even directly confirm m/m relationships in my story except in maybe an epilogue, just put in a lot of baitThis is my ideal romance as a reader/player. You could just make expys of your characters/concepts. For example Deltarune seems to dovetail its character/lore assets from Undertale and people don't seem to care. As a creator you can spinoff or remix your ideas as you see fit (there are 5 million capeshit continuities about the same fucking guy!)–as long as you don't somehow lose the right to them in the creation of this game.
No.12015
>>12010You might have better luck in
>>>/oc/337 No.12026
how do I make friends as an adult and a weirdo?
I have been observing other people in their natural habitats and it seems like people just connect randomly over nothing at all. Even when I do have something in common with another person, we still don't click because there's something wrong with my aura. I think I might disgust people on a subconscious level.
No.12027
>>12026Feels like I'm looking into a mirror right now. In my experience the only thing you can really do is hope you'll encounter another weirdo. Much like how you mentioned, I've encountered other people who like gay shipping but in practice they're not into BL in the same way that I am so I've failed in trying to actively attempt to connect with people. People with the same ships will also engage with it differently than I do.
No.12028
>>12027It sucks. When I do meet fans irl, they lack the intensity of a "true" fan and I think I freak them out with my enthusiasm. And like you mentioned, online fans just don't like the ship the same way even if they are intense.
I don't think this is autism, because even autistic people are capable of friendship.
No.12029
>>12026Online: it's a little easier if it's an uncommon fandom/pair and you have some good work to share as an icebreaker. I once cold sent another woman who ships my rarepair a long WIP and we bonded instantly. I would not say we are close friends yet but we feed off of each other in a "thank god I can blab about my freak shit" kindred spirit kind of way, it's great.
Offline: I have yet to crack the code here because I keep on running into shit like
>>12028 where they "like" the same things as me but they think fandom/shipping is weird. I almost want to get an Ao3 pin/sticker or something but that can backfire because there is a flavor of cringe there I don't really want to invite either. The few Ao3 girlies I have ever encountered IRL have been western hetfags or weeb yumes, it's maddening. With my luck I feel like the first bona fide fujo I meet is gonna ship a NOTP haha.
No.12030
>>12026Man I had this experience at a retro store recently. Found a copy of a yaoi dvd and when I checked out the cashier was talking about how she watched it days ago and how much she liked it. I should've taken it as an opportunity to make a fujo friend but awkwardly clammed up instead. I wish I wasn't like this.
No.12031
>>12029You gotta hit them with the shoelaces phrase nonna
No.12032
>>12030This seems like a good strategy at making irl fujo friends if you’re not quite old enough to have a big girl job yet. Working at a store with some sort of yaoi products that is. I’m stealing it. I want irl fujo friends that live near me.
No.12033
>>12030>>12032I'm gonna start lurking around the manga section of the local used book store to see if I can spot any women my age grabbing for the yaoi
No.12035
>>12032I applied to B&N but those losers don’t want me, now what?
No.12036
>>12035Have you tried other bookstores? The Public library (even my Deep South public library has gay books, no yaoi manga though the librarian would order them if I requested them), niche anime hobby stores, comic stores maybe even GameStop might also prove fruitful.
No.12037
>>12032>The so-called "Ōizumi Salon", a rented house in Ōizumigakuenchō, Nerima, Tokyo that manga artists Moto Hagio and Keiko Takemiya shared as roommates from 1971 to 1973, came to be an important gathering point for members and affiliates of the Year 24 Group. Hagio and Takemiya made the house available to shōjo artists for use as living and working space, allowing them to both bond socially, share ideas and influences, and collaborate on manga.[9][10]I want this but as I have no artistic talent, it would be reading instead of drawing manga.
No.12101
>>12099I like platonic m/f and actually tend to avoid longform sausagefest BL but I know somebody else is gonna come in and say no girls at all so just follow your heart. My ideal girl characters are cool or cute and not at all romantically involved with the dudes I was already shipping, so whatever you are cooking sounds tasty to me.
No.12102
>>12099Yeah, I like to see female characters in my BL. They make the stories seem more real, even if they're just set dressing moms/sisters/daughters/etc. I really liked the seme's ex in Dear Gene. I thought she really added to the world and the characters, and it was really clear that she cared for the seme, without being the evil nagging ex out to destroy the BL relationship.
When there are no women at all, it feels like Marginal
before the reveal that its a scifi or pic related.
Anyways, like
>>12101 said: you should just do what you think is the most interesting.
No.12103
>>12099I loved the women in Devil Venerable Also Wants to Know and could have enjoyed spinoffs about all of them, so it is possible!
Probably helps more if your story is plot with romance instead of romance wth plot.
No.12104
>>12101>>12103Thanks for the responses!! I want the women to be platonic and just vibe while looking cool and avoiding lame shonen treatment
>Probably helps more if your story is plot with romance instead of romance wth plot.Yep, it's plot with bait. I usually prefer shipping to explicit BL for that reason anyways.
>>12102keking at
>our Mascara for UKEsalso how did that kid get in the world of gays? omegaverse?
No.12105
>>12101>but I know somebody else is gonna come in and say no girls at all so just follow your heart. Yeah that's me, sorry everybody. I don't mind older female characters, like office ladies or teachers, but female hest friend or one with plot relevance is a turn-off.
You should write what you want to write though and your passion should triumph chasing appeal.
No.12106
That's why if I'd ever make BL I'd write the setting so that it makes sense that there's no women, like in a male only boarding school or monastery.
No.12107
>>12104>also how did that kid get in the world of gays? omegaverse?The rest of the comic seems to be lost to time, so who knows. This was 2011 though, so it was probably good old fashioned 'don't think too hard about it' mpreg
I agree with you on
>Yep, it's plot with bait(although I prefer confirmed romances), but the plot will almost always override just shipping for me. When the ship is great but the story is stupid, it becomes unreadable to me. And imo, the plot *can* just be the two characters hooking up, but its got to have more going on than just "We can't be together for… reasons" or using miscommunication as a plot device in a stupid way.
My own dumb original WIP is a romance with the get together as the main plot, but (I hope) its more complex than just: 'we are dating now yay'.
(for the record, it *does* have female characters: a landlady, her daughter (a nurse), and an ex-fiancee and some female relatives of the main characters)
No.12124
I don't really need advice, but I don't have friends so there's nowhere else to say it. My ex threw away things that were important to me the other day. I was planning to get them, and without warning, I hear from someone else that he apparently just threw it away without a thought. It's a long story so I won't bore anybody with it.
I just feel like no matter how much a person loves you, one day they won't anymore, and when that day comes they'll become monstrous towards you and only you.
No.12127
>>12124Relationships can end amicably. Your ex is just a self-centered asshole.
No.12128
>>12124All I want to say is that I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm glad your ex is your ex. There are much better people out there who will love you and appreciate you, romantically or not.
No.12129
>>12126>>12128Thank you. It really hurts. I put years of my life into it, just for it to end with my things in a bin. Lol. It's weird but I haven't felt this much pain since the initial breakup. I was doing fine.
>>12127Maybe they can. I guess that wasn't in the cards for me. I was so angry the other day I wanted to kill him. Today I'm just sad.
Anybody else have any miserable breakup stories?
No.12262
Retarded question, but are black-haired ukes weird or a turn-off for other fujos?
No.12263
>>12262That doesn't impact my shipping but I can see how it would be a turn off if you were just shopping around for a oneshot to read.
No.12265
>>12262First time hearing about it being a turn-off, can you explain?
No.12268
>>12262Idk about weird or being a turn-off but black-haired ukes are seen as too orthodox and tradjoshi-y
No.12270
>>12262Not for me. I love cold ukes and they tend to be black-haired, so I like black-haired ukes by proxy.
No.12275
>>12265Some people are very autistic when it comes to ship dynamics, "the seme has to be exactly 5+ inches taller then the uke, otherwise it's not valid."
No.12364
>>123639anime if you aren't going to torrent. But you should learn how there's plenty of niche series which are hard to find on piracy sites. Especially if you set up something like Plex or Jellyfin it makes the whole experience much nicer.
No.12365
>>12364I think I dropped 9anime a while back because it doesn't let me register for some reason.
No.12366
>>12363I use hianime or animekai. Depends on which one is working. And if both of those fail, ol’ reliable watchcartoonsonline.
No.12367
>>12363I mainly use animekai but having a bunch of backups is nice if somethings not working.
https://everythingmoe.com/ just pick one you like
No.12368
>>12363tbcpl(dot)lol
There's multiple sites linked for anything you could imagine, just make sure you have ublock installed.
No.12534
i'll preface this by saying that generally i am not someone who has many friends by default. as i grew older, suddenly all my friends were people i had met online. though i met these friends through fandom, we grew close and began chatting about normal things outside of shipping, like work, family, relationships, life goals, whatever. however, i am finding that i am growing out of some of these relationships? it's like the wavelength is suddenly totally different. i want to talk about things on a deeper level, friend A just wants to send fanart. i want honest criticism on my writing, friend B just wants to say "it's perfect, no notes." i do feel a sense of loyalty to these friends and care for them deeply, especially after we've been there for each other, but i can't help but feel like something is off.
am i being a bitch? do i need to say something, or just let this feeling play out? i don't think this growing apart stage would be so obvious irl, but online, it feels almost overwhelmingly apparent.
No.12770
Any tips on how to avoid gendies on fandom Tumblr? I know it's almost impossible, but I'd like to reduce the amount that will follow/interact w me (I've yet to make my blog). Is there anything I should add/omit in my bio/intro post? Can I get away with not stating pronouns and ignoring trans stuff in 2026?
>>12534I'd just let them drift away tbh. A friendship goes both ways and if they're not putting any effort into it, let them go. I hope you find new people that will give you what you want.
No.12771
>>12770It's very fandom dependent, but if you don't reblog/post trans headcanons/art/fic/etc, your blog, at least will be free of it. You can definitely get away with no pronouns in bio though. The tide is definitely turning, albeit very slowly.
No.12772
>>12770It's pretty much impossible to avoid gendies interacting with you, but you can easily avoid gender discourse bullshit nowadays, people aren't as retarded with their activism anymore and you won't get cancelled for not reblogging pro-trans posts or supporting trans headcanons. I recommend not reblogging or posting anything politics related at all, make it clear you're a fandom only blog. The MTFs are the most annoying and dangerous ones but they are nonexistent in women dominated fandoms, if you're into yuri anime or anything male dominated you're screwed though. Try to avoid them at all costs, they are easily identifiable by their usernames and weird kinks.
No.12773
>>12770>>12771I have literally never put pronouns in any of my about mes on any site even back in 2014, I don't know why you think that's necessary.
Tumblr actually has a really good blacklist system you can just hide posts with that tag.
No.12775
>>12773Back in Tumblr's heyday people would try to cancel you for being a 'crypto terf' if you didn't have pronouns in your bio, maybe that didn't happen to you because you didn't post a lot or interact with popular fandoms.
No.12777
>>12775I can confirm that. And back in the days tumblr didn't have an option to let you mute or block words and tags. You had to use missing e, which died and then was replaced by xkit. Which also died after someone accused its dev of doing something that literally never happened. And it was all on pc, not on the app of course so avoid troons was hard. However there were almost only FTM fandom losers back then on tumblr. I heard the site has been colonized by MTF since I deactivated my account.